Don’t be rude to people who don’t deserve it.
There is absolutely no reason to make passive or rude comments about strangers.
If you laugh at, mock or make a rude comment about a stranger you pass on the street, you’re gross, immature and mean.
After being told over and over again to never judge a book by its cover and to be kind, I’m shocked this even needs to be said.
I’ve heard a couple people here say rude things about strangers, and I’ve heard horror stories about my friend being the butt of jokes by her other so-called “friends”. It’s bad enough to be passively rude to strangers, but to do that to your friends is unbelievable.
Anyways, there are a million reasons why you should keep your rude comments to yourself.
It’s detrimental for your self-confidence to judge others. The moment you tear someone else down, you make a habit of seeing the negative. You’ll start to see those “flaws” in yourself.
However, if you take a second to appreciate positive characteristics of a stranger, you can wire your brain to think positively about yourself as well.
There’s also the worst-case scenario where the stranger hears you say something about them. Then, you’ve single-handedly ruined their day and damaged their confidence. To be responsible for hurting someone else is a heavy burden to carry unless you don’t have a heart or soul.
What is to gain from tearing others down? A superiority complex? Let me tell you, no one is uglier than a mean person. No one wants to be friends with someone who makes them scared to be anything other than perfect. So, why bother?
It has been said that gossip brings people closer together. Maybe that’s a reason to justify talking badly about others; however, a mean comment about a stranger is hardly gossip.
It’s childish to make rude comments about other people’s actions or appearance. Mind your own business. It’s not that hard, especially if you’re more than 12 years old.
It’s also exhausting to pick out flaws of strangers. It is much easier to be nice or say nothing at all. Before making a rude comment, think of your reputation. Do you want to be known as mean? I find it easier to make friends by being kind and following the words of Selena Gomez: kill’em with kindness.
Think of it this way: do you want people to judge you when you have a bad hair day? What about when you run to the store to grab a quick item or two in your pajamas? Everyone has their own background and their own reasons for their actions, so let them live their life in peace.
The bottom line is, don’t judge a book by its cover, don’t be mean, and speak positively about others. If someone you know makes the mistake of judging someone else, say something about it.