There have been multiple idealizations of what non-emotionality is, and what it looks like in people, and it’s not what you think.
The approach of seeking invulnerability against everything that life throws at you leads to multiple social and psychological instabilities which effect the individual seeking it.
From young ages, many developing people find that they are faced with an environment that is indifferent and challenging in many ways. Social conditions imposed upon many prove to be a mixed and unpredictable lottery.
Life has emotional pain, that’s natural. But because pain is strongly inadvertent, it also discourages people from exploring its impact and origins within themselves in order to emotionally develop and gain wisdom.
Our current culture is influenced by ideas that appeal to the emotions of everyone, be it savory or repulsive. The human mind is driven by its search for stimulation, whether pleasant or bitter.
However, the truth of what people are and undergo, like the whole of reality, is a thing indifferent to what they are driven to perceive.
Without the tools to adapt to the impacts on their emotions and judgement, many opt to hide their emotions and deny to themselves that their emotions exist at all. Thus, when turning a blind eye to the impact that their emotions on them, they stop their cognitive skills for their emotions from developing further.
They can become easily, deeply angered to anything which causes emotional pain, as their thoughts and interests are characterized by an addiction to control or influence to varying interpretations and approaches.
Non-emotionality makes it hard to let go of various things of which someone has pursued control over as a coping mechanism for their inability to accept pain.
Emotion is regarded as something that is almost a physical feeling which is recognized to coincide with one’s behavior, it is something we learn as children.
Emotion is a human drive, and works in complex and subtle ways that more often slip under an individual’s radar. Other times something happens that may cause someone to have many conflicting emotions at once.
This happens because the individual is more emotionally cognizant and can handle and accept a greater complexity of sensations, however, it is when people begin to deny being affected by their emotions, dubbing themselves “nonemotional,” that development toward emotional cognizance in life is delayed.
This brings the matter full swing back to the beginning point. The social contexts in peoples’ lives is profoundly impactive on human drive. As said before, those without the means to adapt are prone to seeking out emotional and social invulnerability.
Thus, masking one’s emotions to be “non-emotional” is in fact a deeply emotional thing to do, and can cause irrevocable harm to one’s self and others.
The damage to others comes from the lack of empathy, emotional intellect, and sympathy that is accompanied by the nonacceptance of emotions and the human condition.
What it is might seem too obvious only when explained. Non-emotionality means no emotions and therefore indicates that there is no human drive. Thus what it really comes down to, is that the inexistence of emotionality means that you, an individual, no longer exist.
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