There’s a lot of stress for everyone to follow a certain timeline in life, but it’s OK for everyone to get things done at their own pace.
There shouldn’t be a certain age that you’re expected to have everything all figured out by.
Everyone starts to think of these things as they approach the tail end of their college career.
I won’t be graduating in four years, and that’s perfectly OK. I’d rather take a little extra time so I can do things right and not feel constantly stressed or overworked.
Most people I know don’t finish in four years either, and it shouldn’t be so stigmatized.
Most people are also working while in college and participate in things like sports, RSOs or other extracurricular activities.
It’s important to do more than just go to class while you’re in college. If you need to take fewer classes per semester to make sure you have time to get everything done properly and experience life, that’s perfectly fine.
I was a little bit of a late bloomer in some ways.
I didn’t really date until my senior year of high school, and I didn’t get my driver’s license until a few days before I turned 18. Both of these were probably due to the untreated anxiety I was experiencing at the time.
While that’s a little later than what people consider “normal,” it shouldn’t be.
There are plenty of people my own age or older who still haven’t dated or gotten a driver’s license. That doesn’t make them weird.
Sometimes there’s also pressure to get married or be in a committed relationship by a certain age.
I think that’s unhealthy because it can lead to people rushing into a serious relationship with someone they don’t truly love, just so they feel like they fit in.
At 21, some of my friends are getting engaged or married and moving in with their significant others. I’m happy for them, but I don’t feel like I need to rush into that.
I’ve been single for a little while, and I can honestly say it’s the happiest I’ve been in quite some time.
I’ve been able to work on improving myself. I don’t have any worries. I trust myself to know when I want a relationship.
Most people seem to become more comfortable with their true selves as soon as they finish high school, but for me it took a lot longer.
I can honestly say that the past few months have been the first time that I felt truly confident in myself and at peace with how my life is going.
While it may have taken me a bit longer than it took some of my friends and peers, I’m proud of the progress I have made.
Even things like car and home ownership or moving out of your parents’ house can be stigmatized if you do it too “late” in life, and it shouldn’t be.
Not everyone has lived the same life and had the same access to things. It’s a lot easier to move out on your own and make big purchases if you have support.
Some people are also unable to live on their own, and that shouldn’t be anything to be ashamed of.
Different life circumstances mean that everyone does things on their own time.
No one should feel like they have to rush into anything or do things they’re physically, mentally or financially not capable of just to meet others’ arbitrary standards.
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