We live in a world where it is very easy to seemingly drop off the face of the Earth if you don’t want to talk to someone, whether it’s unadding, blocking, or simply ignoring messages.
Regardless of the method, the majority of us have done it.
Ghosting has become very common and even somewhat acceptable.
However, a lot of people don’t realize that being upfront instead of disappearing without a trace is actually a more respectable method to parting ways.
“But I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by telling them I don’t like them like that.”
Okay, but ghosting will make the person wonder what they did wrong.
Why you decided to just stop talking to them.
Why you didn’t respect them enough to give an explanation.
You’re doing more harm than not trying to preserve someone’s feelings.
“But it’s awkward…”
You know what else is awkward? Waiting for someone you thought you hit it off with to reply to you.
Then seeing that you’re now no longer able to message this person until they add you back.
Whether it’s a misperceived idea of someone else’s fragility or the avoidance of a non-desirable situation, people deserve respect.
I’ve been on both sides.
However, from personally feeling the hurt of being ghosted, I no longer just vanish into the darkness when I am no longer interested in someone.
All ghosting does is create more issues.
The ghostee is left with uncertainty and lack of closure.
The ghoster is now seen as a jerk. And guess what?
If you ever see the person you ghosted again, you just created an even more awkward situation than if you were just honest.
Sometimes those silly little phrases they taught us in elementary school actually reign true.
“Honesty is the best policy.”
People tend to underestimate the resiliency of others.
Being given all the information and knowing that you did all you could do, allows one to move on from a situation.
It allows them to move on quicker than if they are only left with scenarios and reasons made up in their minds in an effort to rationalize the actions of the other person.
We need to give each other more credit, as well as check ourselves for being selfish.